Every moment of every day, whether you realise it or not, you are making a decision of how to spend your time, of what to pay attention to, of where to direct your energy. Our values are constantly reflected in the way we choose to behave.
The Great Value Disconnect
We all have a few things that we think and say we value, but we never back them up with our actions. Many of us state values we wish we had as a way to cover up the values we actually have, by doing this, aspiration can often become another form of avoidance. Instead of facing who we really are, and what we truly value, we lose ourselves in who we wish to become.
We lie to ourselves because we don’t like some of our own values, and we, therefore, don’t like a part of ourselves. We don’t want to admit we have certain values and that we wish we had other values, and it’s this discrepancy between self-perception and reality that usually gets us into all sorts of trouble.
That’s because our values are extensions of ourselves. They are what define us. When something good happens to something or someone you value, you feel good. When we are disconnected from our own values our beliefs and ideas get disconnected from our actions and emotions. And to bridge that disconnect, we become delusional, about both ourselves and about the world.